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Still Waiting On Her To Reply? Read This

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Have you spent hours waiting on her to reply? Every hetero man has found himself in this situation as they anticipate a woman’s text. She could be in class, at work, talking to other friends. Maybe she’s in dance rehearsals, taking a nap. She might simply not feel like replying right away, and if that’s the case, she’s probably not as into you as you’d hope. Or, maybe she’s really into you, and is cunningly playing the game of making a man wait (which is really hot).

It’s The Anticipation

You know what’s fun in dating? Texting is fun. Waiting on her to reply is thrilling with anticipation, excitement, and wonder. A new girl comes into your life, or maybe she’s been there for a while. Whichever it is, there’s the prospect of an intimate relationship in the cards, a new found romantic spark. You’d like to go on a date with her, or take her out for that elusive second date. You want that late night conversation about that leads to the first kiss, making out, passionate sex. Well, at least that’s how you see it.

These ideas are all in your imagination as you await her reply. Seconds go by, minutes, hours, and you keep checking your phone. You continue to swipe the refresh button just to be sure. You check the time between her last reply and the message you sent before that, in order to gauge how long it might take for the next reply. You’re wondering, what could she be doing. Who she’s with.

“A Feria Gentleman is patient with Women.”

-Feria Magazine

It’s Still Your Move

So, what should you do? Well, here’s what you should certainly not do. You should not show your desperation by following up with more texts. A follow-up text is fine, just not too soon.

You definitely should not ask her why she hasn’t replied. And you should never get angry or upset with her for not replying right away, because, no.

I don’t know your specific situation, the relationship dynamics that exist between you and the woman in your life. But if you feel like standing by your phone, refreshing it every few seconds, spying on her social media activity, and getting lost in your imagination obsession over this woman; then go right ahead. The anticipation might even get you off. But waiting around isn’t going to make her reply any sooner. She may not reply at all!

You still have your own life to look forward to. I get having a crush on a woman. But I’ve also learned that you really just need to focus on your own goals. If you don’t have any goals, create some. Because not only is it healthier for you, it also gives you the best chances with her. She’ll be more attracted to you if you’re pursuing your goals in life, versus just sitting at your phone all day waiting.

Feria’s Last Call

She has her own life, and so should you. If your emotional fulfillment is dependent on her liking you back, then maybe you’re not ready to be in a relationship. She might just be the type of woman who makes you wait hours or even days before receiving a reply. If you really do want a shot with her, you’ll be a gentleman and be patient. Don’t stand idle by your phone waiting on her to reply, as she lives her own life. Focus on your own goals, life, & identity. And if there’s something there, then she’ll come to admire those profound qualities about you. And she’ll eventually reply!■

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